Helping A Friend When Their Down

It can be hard to be a friend to someone who’s sad but it can be one of the nicest things you’ll ever do. These are some of the ways you can help a friend when their feeling down. I’ve been through some difficult times and these little things the people around me did or said, really helped, even if I didn’t realise it at the time.

Encourage Them To Talk About How They Feel
Just having someone to listen to them could make a world of difference. A problem shared is a problem halved. Being able to offload to someone could help them put their situation into perspective.

Let Them Know You’ll Be There For Them
Sometimes we can all feel like we’re alone in the world and have no one to turn to. Just telling your friend you’ll be there for them, even if you’re not quite sure how to help, will mean a lot. When a friend said this to me before when I was going through a rough time, it warmed my heart and I felt valued by her.

Plan A Day Out Or A Regular Meet Up
When you feel low sometimes all you want to do is shut yourself off from the world and hide behind the curtains. Being alone with your thoughts can make things worse, so keep them busy and take their minds off things. You could plan a trip to the cinema or join a spinning class for example. Give them something else to focus on can also remind them there is good things in their life.

Check In On Them
Life can get busy sometimes but as we are in the age where everyone is constantly glued to their phones, it doesn’t take much to send a message to ask how they are doing. It’ll let your friend know they have someone who cares and is looking out for them. Don’t push them to respond straight away but let them know when their ready, you’ll be there.

Suggest They Seek Help If You Think It’s Necessary
Depending on the situation, the person may require professional help or simply the aid of close family members. Encouraging them to take the steps needed will lead them to the path of a more positive mental health.

Don’t Be Too Hard On Them
The worst thing you can say to someone who’s feeling depressed or who has depression is ‘cheer up’ or ‘snap out of it’. You wouldn’t tell someone with a broken leg to just walk it off. Just because you can’t see what’s going off in someone’s head it doesn’t mean it doesn’t affect them any less. Show your understanding and compassion and you’re half way there.

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Those are my suggestions in ways you can help someone who’s feeling down. I’m not an expert of course but can touch on my own experiences and what helped me get through. Hopefully I haven’t left anything out but feel free to leave your own recommendations in the comments below. Thanks for reading XOXO.

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