As cliche as it sounds the older I get the more I am learning about myself and the world around me. Looking back at my younger self I wish there were things I knew then that I know now. I’m writing this post as a bit of nostalgia and to maybe help any younger readers with any barriers they may face. These are some of the things I wish I could tell my younger self.
It’s okay not to be perfect
This was a big thing for me when I was younger, I felt like I had to be good at everything. If I wasn’t perfect looking or good at anything, I thought people wouldn’t like me. Now I know this not to be the case. People will still talk to me and like me despite any flaws I have. A true friend and any decent person, will not care if you have crooked teeth or a big nose and if they do, they are not the people you want to surround yourself with.
Appreciate the smaller things in life
Of course my battle with depression and anxiety clouded my thoughts but even when I was having a good period in my life, I’d always focus on the negatives. I kick myself now thinking about how I would let one small thing ruin the whole day because I couldn’t let it go and I’d make myself miserable without giving a thought to all the positives. When I had Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, we spoke about being in control of your thoughts and making ourselves aware of the positives instead of the negatives. Now I like to focus on the good things, no matter how small and just acknowledge the bad, but don’t let it eat me up.
My mum only wants the best for me
I think many people my age can relate to this one. When we’re teenagers we can think our parents are just out to punish and control us and only want to spoil our fun. At 25 I’m a lot closer to my mum and appreciate her so much more. I’ve heard a lot of women say how much closer they are to their mum now they’re adults and even more so when they became a mum. As much as I didn’t think so at the time, my mum only ever had my best interests at heart.
You’re not the only person going through something
The saying goes you never know what goes on behind close doors. I’d often look at my peers with envy at how they seemed to have everything together and I was somehow the odd one. The truth is everyone has something going on in their lives. The girl who sits opposite you in class could have a secret eating disorder or the boy across the street may be feeling isolated and lonely. We never know truly how other’s feel as we are on the outside looking in and people will only share want they want you to know. Social media has a big part to play in young people feeling inadequate as they scroll through their news feed looking at other’s leading these so called perfect lives. What you have to remember is those people aren’t going to show you the negative aspects of their lives and you have to take everything with a pinch of salt. I want you to know you’re not alone in feeling the way you do.
Open a savings account and start putting money aside
I’ve always been a shopaholic and would spend my money as soon as I get it. My 17 year old self really enjoyed her shopping sprees when I landed my first job. I just wish I hadn’t brought so much fast fashion and wasted all my income on things I would only use for a few months. Depositing a small amount each week into a savings account really does add up and would be a decent amount by now.
Take care of your skin
In recent years my skincare routine has become very important to me. I want to take care of my skin and prolong the aging process for as long as I can. The biggest cause of premature aging is exposure to the sun. I want to tell my younger self to stay off the sunbeds, wear fake tan if you have to and always wear an SPF. Also, a wipe is not enough to get rid of your makeup, you need to cleanse your face every night and apply moisturiser. Take care of your skin and your older self will thank you. Remember, prevention is better than cure.
If only we could turn back the hands of time. We can’t unfortunately but we can learn and grow as individuals. I hope you enjoyed reading this post. Is there anything you would tell your younger self? Thanks for reading XOXO.